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Why do you think electronic music (Tanghetto, Gotan Project, Carlos Libedinsky..etc) is more appealing to new generations? Why can't they just respect the tango music and dance only to them?
I don't think this is an issue of respect. It's got a lot to do with familiarity.
After the 50s and 60s, (the rock and roll revolution) "drums" became cruical in music. And usage of it evolved much more with every new music movement. We (the younger ones) grew up with that music, not the tangos (unfortunately? :)). We all grew up with "beats" in our ears. We're familiar with that indicator of rhythm when we're listening to a music piece. So our ears look for that. And when they find it, we feel more related to that kind of music than the tangos. Like I said, this is much more a subject of familiarity, not respect. (I personally like tangos more than the electronic music)
The issue of respect begins when you claim that the electronic tangos are the only music to dance tango in our time. That's a big NO. And to me, thet's where "disrespect" starts.

I see you don't dance when they play electronic tangos in milongas. Why is that?
This is a personal choice. I don't like dancing to them. I have to have a reason to dance, the music has to move both my soul and my body. Electronic tangos don't give me that feeling.

How do you say 'No' to a guy, I can never do that!
I smile, and I say "thank you". I don't make excuses, I don't try to "look" busy. I say "not now" only when I'm really busy and I really want to dance with the guy. And when I'm free, I cabeceo him.

My boyfriend/girlfriend is insanely jealous about me dancing. Should I encourage her/him to dance too?
That's a very personal choice. Sometimes you get very positive results, sometimes you end up breaking up. Or, she/he may end up wanting you to dance only with her/him, just to keep you away from other people's arms :)
You never know, you just have to take a leap of faith I guess.

Do I have to let the man initiate the kind of embrace? (open, close?)
I don't think you "have to". But if you ask my personal opinion, I usually leave it to the guy if I don't know him, and if it's the first time we're dancing.